INFIDELITY Part 8 – The Core Energetics Approach of Being in a Relationship: Be willing to say "YES" to any experience and not trying to create an illusory safety - Reading time: 7 minutes

In the last article we talked about our expectations that our partners must meet in order for us to feel safe, and when they don't, we tend to look for new partners, always looking for someone who will fulfill our dream of "the one".
 
But since this puts us in a vicious cycle of unfulfilled desires, we have to trust that our partner, even if we don't always trust them, will still want to be with us. It's paradoxical:
 
"In order for you to trust me, I have to become aware that there will be times when you cannot trust me.  I have to become aware that there will be times when I will be guided by my shadow and I will (unconsciously) create situations where neither I nor you can trust me. And I need to let you know that, so I know you will trust me."

It's not too complicated, it's paradoxical.

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