But since this puts us in a vicious cycle of unfulfilled desires, we have to trust that our partner, even if we don't always trust them, will still want to be with us. It's paradoxical:
"In order for you to trust me, I have to become aware that there will be times when you cannot trust me. I have to become aware that there will be times when I will be guided by my shadow and I will (unconsciously) create situations where neither I nor you can trust me. And I need to let you know that, so I know you will trust me."
It's not too complicated, it's paradoxical.