Development of childhood wounds and trauma are the master key in mate selection. In this stage, it is important to define trauma. Trauma is, from the body psychotherapy approach, every experience where we were not able to manage the flow of energy, the arising feelings. We experienced fear, danger, we suppressed the feelings and therefore our bodies, our muscles contracted, we stopped breathing for a few seconds and the energy stopped flowing organically. This muscular contraction eventually becomes a "shell" that will protect us in the future from feeling those dangerous or uncomfortable emotions again. This is how our behavioural patterns are formed: first they served us to survive, but in adulthood they become defensive patterns and limit our ability to experience life energy in all its fullness. From the body and the way we learn to deal with the energy within us, a person's character is formed.
No parents, no matter how devoted, are able to respond perfectly to all of the needs of the baby/child. There is no way to evade this childhood traumas. We all grew up knowing the anguish of unmet needs and these needs to follow us into our marriage...
No parents, no matter how devoted, are able to respond perfectly to all of the needs of the baby/child. There is no way to evade this childhood traumas. We all grew up knowing the anguish of unmet needs and these needs to follow us into our marriage...
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